I recently started taking vitamins in order to live up to the “Wise and Graceful by 40” expectation that I have set up for myself. Then something really ironic came up, I’m 22 now and have little to no maturity. Then today, I’m on instagram and I see a post, “10 signs of maturity.” I went down the list and here is what I have to say about it. I have some disagreements but it’s good food for thoughts.
Valentine’s Day is in just one week! Have you made that restaurant reservations yet? What are you doing for that special someone? And if you choose to be with friends and family this day, what will you be doing? So many questions and only so little time. WORRY NOT! I am here to provide some Valentine’s Date Idea to make life just that much easier!
I am very lucky to have parents that love me unconditionally but I bet it’s really hard for them as it is really hard for me to love my boyfriend and my friends unconditionally. That’s why I always wonder, to love someone unconditionally means I would have to forgive my partner with everything, even cheating. Now that’s a little absurd, in our society today that’s called being cucked by your own lover. Achieving unconditional love is so hard, it’s hard with friends, family and romantic relationship. I have the greatest respect for those that can say they have achieved unconditional love but is it really? (I’m always skeptical when a couple tells me this. Parents loving their kids unconditionally, sure but not romantic relationships. Much much harder to achieve.) Anyway, since it is really hard to talk about all three at once, I want to focus on romantic relationships today.
Here are the 8
My nunhood story started at the age of 12, I was sitting in Sunday mass one summer afternoon when a wonderfully sweet nun stepped up to the podium to speak. She was dressed in all white with the exception of her black shoes. She spoke invited all the young girls from age 16-30 to join her convent for a “Come and See.” A come and see is a weekend event that the nuns of that convent host to encourage young girls into the path of religious service. As soon as I turned 16 I started my journey of nunhood. By the age of 17 I had attended multiple retreats and come and sees at different convents all over California. When I entered my last year of high school, I was adamant that I wanted to pursue nunhood for the rest of my life. (I know right? Giving up my life at 17…) When high school ended I committed myself to God.
The title is “How to get over someone” I won’t tell you how to get over someone but trust me, you’ll feel emotionally renewed after you’ve read some wise words.
You’ve just broken up with that special someone and you’re at the point where it feels like everything is his/her fault. You can’t help that you’re feeling so hurt, you blame your ex. boyfriend/girlfriend for the death of the relationship. Wait! What?? It’s not his/her fault, it’s your fault that the relationship ended? Well, either way, you’re depressed. And you’re now on the internet looking for advice as to how to get over the person that you hate the most at this moment. I was there before but I had a person that guided me through this problem.
When I was working at my very first internship, I met a mentor that I will truly cherish forever. I saw him as a grandfather figure, he always had an answer to my problem. Below are his words about kindness and love that made me realize how emotionally ugly of a person I truly am. I still have trouble with following his words but when I read his words I am able to collect myself and think rationally.
“You should always be grateful for what you have, and for being alive, and be part of this amazing experience called life.
You are not the center of universe, and not everything and everybody is going to do or be the way you like it.
What others do, say, think , or behave is none of your business, and you are not responsible for it.
Only ego-mind judge.
Like everything in universe , your essence is made of kindness and love.
You are not supposed to be kind to others, in order to fulfill a task, or to appease them.
You need to be the kindness itself, by start being kind to yourself.
Life is a joy.
But the joy is the fruit of unconditional kindness, especially kindness toward yourself.
Remember that is what you are made of , that is your essence. Eternal love and kindness.
Connect to your real self.
Everything else is creation of ego-mind and is not of any value.
Is just bunch of stuff.
Stuff and other people, or other places are source of, or cause of your happiness.
Enjoy every bite of your sweet melon , while you are siting by the beach, feeling the soft breeze of ocean touching your face, listen to sound of seabirds, share yourself, your laughter’s, and your kindness with laughter’s and kindness of people, and playfulness of the kids.
They are not strangers. They are only you.
Connect with the universe around you, which is true you.
Disconnect ego selfish you , which is not you.”