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Getting Ready for Last Year in Undergrad-Civil Engineering B.S.

By on August 30, 2017

Wew! I cannot believe it, time went by so quickly…it seems like I was just a little 18 years old Freshman last week. Although people still confuse me as much younger than I really am. Thank goodness for my parents’ forever young genes. (For those who are curious, I’m 21 years old.) I don’t have any regrets with how I have spent the last few years, the awesome people I have met in college, the “college experience” I’ve gain, the great staff that I met and countless of other experiences. Don’t get me wrong, I had my mistakes. I somehow managed to fail some classes; trust me, it’s not easy to fail at the school I attend. However, all the really awesome things that happened made up for my mistakes and if it didn’t, there’s no need to fuss. I like to think that there’s not need to fix what has happened but remember the mistakes and continue forward. “Regrets and mistakes are memories made.”-Adele. No one else to blame but yourself and NEVER EVER EVER play the victim of your own stories. Oh gosh and don’t ever try to relate to a Taylor Swift song, goodness. I am personally really looking forward to my last year in my undergrad. Although not a lot of people seemed very happy coming back to school, I think they had a much better summer than I did. I was glad to go back to school, going back to school means 1/2 the responsibilities at work and who doesn’t like that?! Work is great experience and people here are super duper wonderful but sleeping in for an extra hour on a Wednesday is bliss. I’m taking all the hard classes this year, but the professors are so wonderful. I’m learning a lot just from the first week of school, maybe I might look into graduate school after I get my FE. I scheduled to make my FE the week I come back from winter break, I’m excited to study for it. I need to brush up on my fundamentals too, my boss asked me how I would find the force of water pushing onto a dam the other day and I gave him a super generic answer. Another great thing about school vs. work, it’s perfectly alright to answer wrong in class but definitely not okay at work. All my classes this semester lined up very well, I have a Friday lab but it’s a hard lab so I don’t mind it being on Friday, Friday labs are always much more chill.

Here are some of my experiences put into recommendations: Please don’t take it word for word, explore it yourself! You’ll find the experience much more exciting. Never listen to the internet without further research they say.

My message for anyone entering Freshman year, make lots of friends in your engineering classes. These people will be with you in at least 1 class for the next 4 years. Make friends outside of your discipline too so you can compare to each other how much harder your discipline is compare to theirs. Join a club, I joined ASCE (American Society of Civil Engineers.) I met my bestest of friend through ASCE, actually. The people one meets in ASCE ends up being a second family. They’re kind of like the brothers and sisters you’ve always wanted. I felt like this when I was really involved, not so much now. ASCE helped me meet my wonderful mentor and it was one of the first important thing to go into my resume. Either way, find a family away from home, it’s important *(I should put in a disclaimer: join a professional club, meaning that there is a professional chapter. Social Fraternities are for fun.)  This summer after Freshman year, make sure you look into summer internships, or year long internships. Whichever floats your boat. Explore your choices, maybe you might land your dream job this summer.

Sophomores, this is your second year now and you’re not as lost anymore. Find that internship yet?You’re taking “important” engineering classes this year. That means Thermo,  Dynamics, and Statics. From my experience as a Civil Major, pay very close attention in Statics, this class comes back to bite you every year for the next 3 years (Static Equilibrium Force and Moment).  Some of you might even be done with the classes above, Physics and Calculus by the time Sophomore year rolls around-kudos to you! But don’t forget your GEs, you don’t want to end up taking a 300 level GE with Freshmen by the time senior year rolls around.

Juniors, I hope you’ve landed a good internship that you want to stay with after graduation-this is so important. You must leave an internship that you can no longer learn from, don’t be afraid to explore! I landed my dream internship the start of my junior year after working for a public agency for 2 years. After 1.5 years I felt like my learning was already stagnated and it wasn’t something I wanted to do. So don’t stay at a place that you don’t love. Anyway, let’s talk about classes, it’s time for those core classes! Remember those people you met in Freshman year? Gosh they’re all in your classes now aren’t they? Did you manage to make good friends with that genius in the class? If you did, good job! H/She is such a good resource. They somehow have answers to everything even before going to class, I wonder how much time they spend prepping the class material. Either way, this year is very important. Grad school is something to look at and it’s time to really improve your GPA. Some schools only look at the last 60 units GPA. There are a lots of choices when it comes to finding grad school! The FE is something to start studying for, most people take it during the winter break of their last year but it’s never too early. I’ve known people who took it during their sophomore year. Different disciplines have different requirements.. Some disciplines do not require the FE. As far as I know, the FE is popular in Civil, Chemical, and Mechanical.

Seniors, you’re pretty much done! This summer your goal is to study for the FE and the GRE, the latter is if you’re going for top notch schools. Some schools do not require the GRE. By December grad school applications should have been submitted. You should have an internship locked in, it’s a good time to discuss your employment with your employer. Don’t be afraid, if they’re willing to take interns they’ll be ready to talk about your future in the company. It’s also a good time to look into graduation trips, if you have the funding. I tell myself that I’ll have to go somewhere otherwise I’ll regret it a lot. Senior design class, have lots of fun here. Make lots of friends, you don’t realize how awesome a person is until you’ve done group work with him/her. And maybe find the love of your life. Who knows…

That’s it from me, these are just from personal experience. I recommend talking to an adviser for classes or anything academic related, they’re a lot of help.

Good Luck!!

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Why I Dumped My High School Friends

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I had a group of friends, 5 people I met in high school. We liked to call ourselves good friends but in reality we were not. I have never had a chance to help any of these people with their personal lives nor have I ever came to these people for help. I really doubt they have time for me and honestly I don’t have the time to help either. I have debated for a while whether or not I should dump my group of “best friends.” But it wasn’t until last week, after almost 9 years of knowing these people that I had to stop.

A lot led to this unfortunates and I’ll walk everyone through it. This group consists of 6 people, myself (I’m the person in the group that doesn’t want to take shit from my friends, I like to think I’m the realistic person.) 4 other girls, Girl #1, she went to school for computer science. Maybe I can get her to write a post…She’s a quiet one not much for confrontation. #1 is very hard working, probably worked the hardest out of all of us. She has a humble background and she was always open to try new things. Bad thing about her is that she doesn’t like to disappoint the majority. Girl #2, she was also another quiet one, this one is very unrealistic. She grew up very disciplined, she is deadly afraid of her mother. She is 22 years old and has a curfew of 9pm. But we were very close in high school. I went to her place almost everyday after school. Girl #3 and I have been friends since 10th grade, we hung out a lot in 11th grade as we were in a few clubs together. She’s fun and when we both turned 21 she was the only one down to drink. She also understood more about relationships but at the same time she had a lot of opinions and she likes to share and impose it on others. Sure share your opinions, I’d love to discuss it. Just don’t force it onto me. That’s stupidly annoying. Girl #4, another quiet one, she went into nursing for school. She is really quiet and loves animals. I really wished I could stay friends with her but she took a side haha during the breakup. Then we have the 1 guy. He’s cool, but he can be quite a girl sometimes. I hated that he thought of himself as an instigator. My mother has always taught us to keep our mouths shut if we have nothing good to say so I’ll stop there.

Of course when we started college we had a lot less time to hang out with each other. I of course was chasing after my boyfriend, involved in quite a few clubs and did not have time for my group of friends. However, I was there if they needed me. I was there if they had a break up and we would sit and have tea and talk for a large amount of time. We did this maybe 3 times. They too were there for me too during the incoherent 3am phone calls. I truly still care about them but we as a group know it didn’t work out. We had 2 fights before I said it was time I go. Towards the end of our relationship, I was getting a lot of heat for not being sensitive. I always hated that about my friends. They talk about being able to say the truth to each other and being able to say anything. But I forgot that they were girls and not the guys. With guys I could call them bitches all I want and they would not get butt hurt. They might be dying inside but they got to much pride to show it. They had 2 interventions for me and 1 failed intervention. When I walked out of the third intervention, they had a conversation on the side with each other. Then the “instigator” sent an extremely vague message to the group chat. That’s when I thought, I was done with this relationship.

So you’re curious about whether I still talk to any of the 5 people. I still do, I send happy birthday messages. I talk to 2 of the girls sometimes, they seem conflicted with who they should be loyal to, so I don’t push them.

I never thought that a friendship could be as hard as a romantic relationship. I was having fights similar to fights that I had with my boyfriend. Being busy as I am, I can barely handle romantic relationship fights. So in order to save time, I selfishly removed myself. I could have tried to make the friendship work because every girl needs her girlfriends. But I’m sure they will find someone to replace me, I was never that good of a friend to begin with.

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Woman Engineer – Lifestyle: The Feminism Meme

By on August 14, 2017

“I love individuals. I hate groups of people. I hate a group of people with a ‘common purpose’. Because pretty soon they have little hats. And armbands. And fight songs. And a list of people they’re going to visit at 3am. So, I dislike and despise groups of people. But I love individuals.” -George Carlin.

The quote above by George Carlin explains exactly how I feel about feminism. Once upon a time, long, long, long time ago, try the 15th century. Which was the first time a woman picked up a pen to defend her sex. A lady name Christine de Pizan who wrote Epitre au Dieu d’Amour (Epistle to the God of Love.) But of course before her, there has been many physical incidents of women defending their sex.

However, my history is no where qualified to talk about those incidents. In fact, I should provide a disclaimer that I’m in no way qualified to talk about feminism. I am simply here to discuss my point of view, feminism is now a meme. And I will admit that everything here is my rant about “wanna be” feminist.

I first came upon the word “feminism” 7 years ago, when I participated in policy debate in high school one of my “kritiks” was on feminism. I was introduced to people like Tricial Ruiz who is the author to “Feminist Theory and International Relations: The Feminist Challenge to Realism and Liberalism” At the time, we were using the “kritik” to defend the reason why we must pull our troops out of the Middle East. We had a sentence in there “Challenging the myth that wars are fought to protect women, children, and others stereotypical viewed as “vulnerable,” feminists point to the high level of civilian casualties in contemporary wars.” Basically saying that because we are trying to protect women, we must fight more wars and that leads to high casualties. WTF?! Are you kidding? Did you run out of people to blame???

I believe the root of feminism is perfect. I mean equality between men and women, not only that but every other sex should be equal. Yes please! I would love for the world to know that women are not the only sex being sex trafficked, women are not the only victims of domestic violence and men are not the only sex that can put food on the table. A lot of things should be equal, and a lot can be but a lot can’t just because our human anatomy are not built that way.

Anyway, back to why Carlin is relevant, he said, once a group starts to have a common purpose, where they start singing their little songs and wearing their little hats it becomes ugly. I think it becomes ugly when people in the group starts to play the telephone game. There’s always the original group, whose ideals are almost perfect. Then they want to spread it to the next group, then that group tells it to the next group, so on and so on. Meaning, the theory of feminism is no longer pure. And unfortunately, there are a lot of “Wikipedias” (the word I use to describe a person that talks like they got the information off of Wikipedia and push it on another that they really know what they’re talking about, like everything that comes out of them are facts.-Not to get me wrong, I consider myself a Wikipedia too…) on the streets.  Fast forward 6 centuries, after at least 4 waves of large woman suffrage moments in the U.S. (that I know of) we have the 2017’s definitions of feminism. And I must say there are quite a few definition, examples: “Hey world I support feminism, I believe in equality between men and women, so I’m going to give myself to every man on the streets because it’s only equal. If men can f*** anyone they want to, I can too.” Or “I support feminism and therefore, I don’t see why women have to be the ones carrying a womb for 9 months.” I can go on all day. But here’s the thing, WHAT???? When is it okay to hurt our bodies and did I go to sleep for 100 years, skipped the part where men can now produce eggs and carry a baby? I want to fight for equality too, but I also know what the physical capabilities of a woman and a man is.

I will cut it here for now, but remember ya’ll, fight for equality. Don’t fight so that we can be better than men. God created the woman so that she can be the partner of the man, not his servant and vice versa. So please have respect for each other and love each other!


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Something a little different…Sex Trafficking in our Communities

By on August 3, 2017

I want to address human trafficking. I have started doing my own research of human trafficking a year ago. However, it is way too big of a problem for myself to address, I would like to address a huge market under the umbrella of human trafficking, sex trafficking through kidnapping in our community. I don’t even want to address the problems with women/men who are forced into sex trafficking through different means or sex trafficking globally. I first came onto this form of sex trafficking through a Hollywood show-Hawaii 5-0, surprising isn’t it? The show does well in explaining this problem, it really opened my eyes, more like it scared the heck out of me. It made me worry for every young girl I know. They took on a problem that no one knows about, did you know that children at the age of 12 are being kidnapped targeted into sex trafficking? From there they are taken to a hotel every night to have unspeakable things done to them by well-dressed and educated men not greasy, hamburger eating men. This is one branch that makes up the 150 billion dollars sex trafficking industry (TIME 2014). I want to say that we can teach our girls to not fall into social media schemes or to stay away from strangers. But that’s not a problem that we morally should have to discuss! Why can’t we punish the men who pay for these services as sex traffickers?!

Anyway, here is a list of how to spot sex trafficking provided by humantraffickinghotline.org

The signs of a sex traffic girl or boy.

Common Work and Living Conditions:
  • Is not free to leave or come and go as he/she wishes
  • Is in the commercial sex industry and has a pimp / manager
  • Is unpaid, paid very little, or paid only through tips
  • Works excessively long and/or unusual hours
  • Is not allowed breaks or suffers under unusual restrictions at work
  • Owes a large debt and is unable to pay it off
  • Was recruited through false promises concerning the nature and conditions of his/her work
  • High security measures exist in the work and/or living locations (e.g. opaque windows, boarded up windows, bars on windows, barbed wire, security cameras, etc.)
Poor Mental Health or Abnormal Behavior:
  • Is fearful, anxious, depressed, submissive, tense, or nervous/paranoid
  • Exhibits unusually fearful or anxious behavior after bringing up law enforcement
  • Avoids eye contact
Poor Physical Health:
  • Lacks medical care and/or is denied medical services by employer
  • Appears malnourished or shows signs of repeated exposure to harmful chemicals
  • Shows signs of physical and/or sexual abuse, physical restraint, confinement, or torture
Lack of Control:
  • Has few or no personal possessions
  • Is not in control of his/her own money, no financial records, or bank account
  • Is not in control of his/her own identification documents (ID or passport)
  • Is not allowed or able to speak for themselves (a third party may insist on being present and/or translating)
  • Claims of just visiting and inability to clarify where he/she is staying/address
  • Lack of knowledge of whereabouts and/or of what city he/she is in
  • Loss of sense of time
  • Has numerous inconsistencies in his/her story

Note: According to federal law, any minor under the age of 18 engaging in commercial sex is a victim of sex trafficking, regardless of the presence of force, fraud, or coercion.

You can make a difference in a young  boy or girl’s life by bringing it to the attention of an authority. Please help…

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