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Pregnancy and Abortion

October 27, 2017

Recently a classmate has asked me for my opinion on Abortion so I figure I would talk about it here. But before I go on, I would like it to be  clear that these are my opinion. I am in no way pushing my opinions onto you. I simply want to talk about my opinions and your options if you’re expecting the unexpected.

I am anti-abortion but I am also a moderate republican. I didn’t vote in the last presidential election anyway, so I really shouldn’t reveal my political stance.

There is a song that my boyfriend sings really often called, Close To You by the Carpenters. It goes a little like this, “On the day that you were born the angels got together and decided to create a dream come true. So they sprinkled moon dust in your hair of gold and starlight in your eyes of blue.” To me, it means that when a baby is conceived, angels specifically come to celebrate and design the baby very specifically to make at least one dream come true. The miracle of birth is so special that every baby deserves a chance to come into this world. Babies are so very precious, their innocence fills (a) heart/s with joy. Ever heard of the phrase, “the good things in life?” I think a baby is truly one of the good things in life. However, not many women my age seems to share the same opinion.

I know we all have our problems. I know your parents would not approve (that is if you had a child out of wedlock), you’re afraid of being judged, you’re afraid of the baggage, you’re afraid of the weight gain, you’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid your husband doesn’t want a baby, you’re afraid you can’t afford it, you’re afraid of not being able to travel and live your life, you might be a single mom, you’re simply afraid. I understand all this, I too had the same fears. For a long time, I feared these things. I had pregnancy worries because I let these fears get to me. I was so afraid of having a baby. I would tell my boyfriend that abortion was an option, men don’t get a say in whether they want to keep their baby according to Hillary Clinton-equality at its greatest, people! (I could go on an on about sexual equality but this is not the time) However, I learned about so many programs that are non-profit and federally funded that provide for women through pregnancy. One of the program is Planned Parenthood. There is a weird dark cloud over Planned Parenthood (before knowing about this program, I was with the nuns outside the clinics protesting). Okay, it’s not a perfect program, there are some nurses who only gives two options at PP. Keep or Toss-someone once told me after her experience. Toss is such a disgusting word in pregnancy. But from interviews I learned that some nurses provide girls with a lot of options. So please be very careful when going into a place like this. But I beg that you would keep an open mind. Please come into PP for options and help instead of ending things. There are a lot of choices to choose from, girls! It not just about keeping or aborting! There are many couples on endless wait lists for a baby. There are housing programs for single moms, there is a program that will feed your baby till the day he turns 18 years old (food stamps.)

I like to think of pregnancy as breaking a really big bone. It hurts but it will heal! You’ll carry a cast for 9 months, people will open doors for you and help you lift things. It really isn’t a big difference. All you have to do is know your options. The thing about America is that there are passionate people with a lot of money that will do anything for good karma. As for me, I know my parents will be okay. I made a mistake and as parents they would not dare to kick their baby onto the curb at her most vulnerable stage. And if they do which I doubt, the government is always a good fall back. I’ll just have to throw away some pride.

I no long fears pregnancy because I know my options. I live in one of the most advanced countries in the world for goodness sake. Now I don’t want to give up my baby anymore if a seed is planted into me. I know that God wants it that way. If He knew that I wasn’t ready, He would not do it. I know that as soon as I held my baby in my arms, the very first time my baby holds my hand, the moment I can feel him/her kick, the moment he/she becomes a part of me. In our lives, a million things can go wrong, who the hell believes in miracles, right? But a baby is a miracle! Does it not blow your mind that one sperm and one egg and a nature’s incubator created you??? That’s a fucking miracle! Therefore, I beg that if you are in this situation, please give your baby a chance. Wouldn’t you want a chance too? People are always asking for chances but are not willing to give.

Then there is the “what if my life is threatened,” in this situation I believe that it is your choice. So at that  moment when I am threatened with life and death, I’ll flip a coin. If I live, I’ll regret things but if I die I will never see my baby. Either way, it’s bitter as hell. Toss a life for a life, biggest philosophical discussion since the beginning of time. In the case of the Zika Virus, I will keep my baby. What if he’s screaming in my womb saying, “mom give me a chance I’ll live! Just give me chance.” When he comes into the world, he might suffer but if he can live through it he’ll have 2 miracles before reaching adulthood.

This has been too long. There is just too much to talk about when it comes to this topic but I want you to take one thing away from this, YOU HAVE OPTIONS IT IS NEVER BLACK OR WHITE.

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